A Fresh Start

After college, I decided to move to Boston, 3000 miles from my home in San Diego. Exhilarated by the idea of transplanting myself to a new locale where no one knew me, I packed up my little Toyota and journeyed east.

The idea of meeting new people who wouldn’t see me through the lenses of my past and my family was so freeing! As an added bonus, I began to see myself differently, too. As if by magic, prospect of this fresh start gave me permission to discard both the self-images that I had created for myself and the ones I had unwittingly borrowed from others. [Read more...]

A New Year’s Evolution

With the New Year fast approaching, our thoughts turn to the grand possibilities life has in store for us if we can just keep this year’s resolution. We resolve to be better and do better hoping that the new and improved “me” will get us a bigger slice of the happiness pie.

As Americans, our $11 billion self-help industry attests to the fact that we are obsessed with resolving to change. But how many people actually keep their New Years resolutions? Research proves what most of us already know: that the vast majority of us do not. While 52% of us believe that we will accomplish our goals, only 12% of us actually do. [Read more...]

Four Ways To Weaken Conditioning

Unknowingly, most of us live under the unconscious influence of debilitating beliefs that we formed in childhood. We created these beliefs out of self-love, as a way to protect ourselves from scary people and situations. We may have suffered over an experience and innocently created conditioning or core beliefs to shield us from ever experiencing that hurt again. [Read more...]

The Short Cut to True Happiness

 Don’t tell the ego this, but there is a happiness that is different to the excited, giddy happiness that it delivers when you drive your new car home, win at Bingo, or bite into that gooey brownie. It comes from being fully engaged in what you are doing and living in the present moment. We dip into this restful feeling of contentment several times a day, perhaps without even being aware of it. [Read more...]