The simple truth about living with a human mind is that if you believe your stressful thoughts, the ones that come from the egoic mind, you will suffer. Yet, ignoring thoughts is easier said than done because we are programmed from birth to pay attention to and believe our thoughts. A stressful thought or a romantic thought about food pops into your head and faster than the speed of light, the mind produces reams of proof supporting the illusion about food or the painful distillation of life. [Read more...]
As human beings we’re programmed to feel that we aren’t enough and we don’t have enough. This programming keeps us perpetually striving to be more, and have more of what we think we need to be happy. The ego directs us to external solutions to our discontent like acquiring more skills, education, fame, a better appearance, a romantic relationship, more money or even spiritual advancement. All of these serve to augment the sense of self, or so we think. For those of us who have food issues our gnawing emptiness sends us to the refrigerator for to fill the hole in our souls. The underlying assumption being that there is something outside of ourselves that can actually deliver this relief. [Read more...]
Emotions are like weather. One minute you’re enjoying life, basking in the sun’s warmth, gazing up at endless blue skies. The next minute, an ominous wind stirs up the leaves next to your feet, and dark thunderclouds roll in. One minute you feel light and happy, the next minute you feel heavy and contracted.
As human beings, we’re programmed to seek out pleasure and avoid pain. We don’t like negative emotions because they create unpleasant contractions and agitation in our bodies. If food has been your drug of choice, when a negative emotion erupts in your body, your first impulse is to numb out with food. [Read more...]
If you’re an emotional eater, when a feeling strikes, your first impulse for is to reach for food. This reaction is less about the food and more about ducking the emotion. Because emotions are felt in the body, they feel much more real, and compelling than thoughts. True or not, you see feelings as big, scary sensations to be avoided at all costs.
This belief is so deeply entrenched that any change in your emotional landscape, any movement away from the status quo, whether it is due to sadness, anger, fear, or even happiness or excitement, puts you in roadrunner mode, racing toward the fridge. [Read more...]