Having a positive body image

I’m sharing this wonderful body-image article with you as it touches on so many aspects of healthy living, expectations, and achievement. I hope you like it! —Laura

post written by Anne Craddock

It’s not always easy to stay in the right frame of mind when we’re trying to get the body that we want. Sometimes, our desires can get the best of us and we lose sight of the bigger things in life. Because as much as it may seem the opposite sometimes, there’s much more to life than how we look. As such, it’s important to maintain a positive body image as we go through our weight loss process. In this article, we’re going to take a look at some of the dangers of body image issues and what you can do to make sure you keep a positive body image.


There are a number of problems that can arise from a negative body image, such as anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders. These happen when an individual develops a fixation on their perceived flaws – flaws that often do not actually exist, or are at the very least greatly exaggerated. Once this happens, it can be a difficult circle to get out of because they feed into one another. For example, a person with a poor body image who fixates on their weight may feel greater shame and self-loathing after enjoying a meal, which would then cause them to even further exaggerated their body flaws. It is possible to get out of this cycle (though extreme cases may need treatment), but it has to be a conscious effort by the individual. Here are a few tips.

Ignore what you see in the media

People tend to think that what they see in advertisements and on television and movies are replications of real life. They see the perfect, flawless models and actresses and believe that those people have somehow achieved perfection. And if those people can, then perhaps they can too. However, it’s always important to remember that the media has a vested interest in making people looking perfect, and they spend a great deal of money and time to make it look like that. Those airbrushed photos aren’t real - the model does indeed have flaws, you just can’t see them as they’ve been manipulated out of the photograph.

Representations of other men and women in the media do have a negative impact on how people see themselves, often making them feel inadequate. Whenever you’re looking at these apparently perfect people in the future, remember that they too have flaws and they don’t really look like that – and there’s no reason you can, either, so don’t stress too much.

See the bigger picture

The pressure to be perfect is enormous. Everybody wants to have the perfect figure and look their best, but only one of these is achievable – they can look their best, but they’ll never be perfect as this doesn’t exist. When that thought gets you down, just remember that for the vast majority of history, appearance hasn’t really mattered. It’s only with the development of televisions, cameras, and make up that we’ve really put much stock in how someone looks. Back in the old days, other things – such as what you achieved and how you acted – were what mattered. It’s because of this shift that body disorder issues have reached unprecedented levels, especially when compared with the past.

Work on yourself

You should get into shape for you, not for anybody else, be it friends, family, or the wider society. Use that motivation as a confidence builder, not something that will sap the confidence out of you. Make your exercising and dieting all part of a broader goal to make you be the very best you can be. It’s unlikely you’ll ever truly be satisfied if how you look is the chief end of your efforts. Coincide that goal with a new skill, self-confidence, and being a better person and you’ll be on your way to radiating both inside and out, full of confidence. Take the time to ask yourself the good things you’re doing for yourself – if your fixation is only bringing you misery, it’s time to let it go.

The goals we have for how we look can sometimes backfire on us. Without knowing it, we can develop habits that can only cause us harm in the long run. By being mindful of what we’re trying to achieve – and how we’re going about achieving it – then we make sure we stay healthy, happy, and confident.

Having a positive body image

It’s not always easy to stay in the right frame of mind when we’re trying to get the body that we want. Sometimes, our desires can get the best of us and we lose sight of the bigger things in life. Because as much as it may seem the opposite sometimes, there’s much more to life than how we look. As such, it’s important to maintain a positive body image as we go through our weight loss process. In this article, we’re going to take a look at some of the dangers of body image issues and what you can do to make sure you keep a positive body image.

Healthy Goodies Are Finally Here! Paleo Brownies and Cookies

Meet Laura’s new superfood, Paleo Brownies and Cookies! Step Two in the Skinny Thinking process is “Wise Food Choices.” But what does it really mean to make wise food choices?  And how are we defining food?

If you look around at how many people eat, you might think food is whatever substance the body can digest. In the Skinny Thinking world we say, “Food is grown; junk is made.” We define food as nutrient dense, plant based, whole food. Processed food makes people sick and whole food supports your body and fulfills its nutritional needs.

In Step Two, we learn the difference between food and entertainment. Food is nutritious and entertainment tastes good but doesn’t give the body the nutrients it needs. It’s fine to entertain ourselves with food sometimes but if that’s what we’re doing habitually, we set ourselves up for a myriad of health and weight problems.

But then I asked myself, “What if we didn’t have to suffer that negative consequence? What if we didn’t have to choose? What if we could really have it all – the party in our mouths and good nutrition, all in one?

As a former chocoholic and sugarholic, four months ago, I daydreamed about treats, delicious cookies and brownies that were actually healthy! “Is a healthy brownie an oxymoron,” I wondered.

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These are yummy treats that taste decadent and rich but remarkably, because they are made with monk fruit and erythritol, don’t promote cravings! They’re actually satisfying rather than leaving you wanting more, like sugary treats.


Meet my new creations: Eight delicious varieties of cookies and brownies that support your Skinny Thinking journey to a healthy relationship with food and your body. My daydream is now a reality! You can order these healthy treats delivered fresh to your door!

Your Thought Diet: Are You Tracking?

Maintaining a healthy weight and relationship with food and your body for life, rather than a few weeks or months, means being honest with yourself about what and how much you are eating. Technology is a wonderful tool to help you track your calories in and calories out. If you get into the habit of tracking your calorie overages and deficits every day, and weight yourself weekly, you will find it so much easier to keep your weight under control! You will be able to simply change your diet, rather than repeatedly going on diets.

I can already hear the rumblings and grumblings. “But I’m allergic to calorie counting, “ you protest. I understand believe me! In my dream world, I would easily maintain my optimal weight and health without managing my portions and calories. But this is earth, with romantic food ads everywhere you look and huge portion sizes in most restaurants. The vast majority of bodies need to manage their eating in order to stay healthy. [Read more...]

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Feelings: Good, Bad, or Ugly?

In and of themselves, feelings aren’t good or bad, or helpful or unhelpful—it’s what we do with them that counts. If anger arises and does its dance, you might experience an urge to eat, if that is your habit. Yet, if you let yourself feel the anger and use it as an opportunity to inquire, either into how you are living and communicating, or into the beliefs that created the anger, then it can be helpful, then it can serve your growth.

A feeling is red flag, an indication that you believed a stressful thought. But the opportunity inherent in a feeling is less about the feeling itself and more about what you do with it. For example, if boredom arises you could inquire into how you are spending your time and get motivated to find something else to do that’s not boring. If fear arises, you may want to ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen if what I fear could happen, actually happens?” Making the fear more concrete usually has the effect of showing that its worst manifestation is not so terrible and cutting the power of the belief that gave rise to it.

If sadness is present, there is the possibility that it can motivate you to do things that moves you out of the sadness. But unless you ask yourself, “What do I need to do to get out of this sadness?” or “What is this sadness about?” the sadness doesn’t get you anywhere.
Sadness can also point you to a belief you have that is stopping you from doing something you would love to do, something that would make your heart sing. Maybe there is something missing in your life that you need to explore. If this is the case and you use the sadness as an impetus to inquire, the sadness is helpful.

For most people, when a feeling arises, it triggers an impulse to distract themselves—through eating, watching television, getting busy, or shopping. In the moment of following those impulses, the feeling has no value. Not only that, the impulse to distract can lead to a pattern of habitual avoidance through unhelpful behaviors.

Instead, if you can break out of this cycle and use the discomfort of the feeling to prompt you to inquire then you have given it a purpose. Asking yourself the following kinds of questions, allows you to make the best use of feelings: “What am I believing that is causing me to feel this way?” “Is there a misunderstanding or a mistaken belief that I need to question?” “Is there something I need to address in this moment or in my life?” Even if you follow the impulse to distract yourself from the feeling, all is not lost. It is never to late to inquire.

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