You Can’t Keep Eating the Same Things

I can see that it’s time for my fire and brimstone lecture. People come to me and say I’m so tired of suffering, just tell me what to do and I’ll do it. But then I ask them to consider eating differently, giving up the junk, giving up the food that has no nutritional value, that they can’t stop eating and in all probability were never designed to eat, and I get blank stares. “I’ll do anything you want because I’m suffering so much over eating and weight, but don’t ask me to give up the food I love. Don’t get between me and my food and no one gets hurt.”

People have been coming to me telling me that they’ve been vigilant about bringing more awareness to their eating, making sure that their tummies are rumbling before they eat, resting, feeding their souls and speaking their truths. In other words they’ve been masterful at putting steps 4 and 5 and some aspect of step 2 into practice. This is great work and integral to healing.

At the same time, you can’t leave out the food component and expect to lick this thing. You can’t eat the same foods you’ve been eating and not monitor portion size or calories and expect to achieve and maintain a natural, healthy body size. Let me repeat so this is crystal clear: you can’t ever go back to eating what you’ve been eating. You can’t ever go back to not monitoring portion sizes, you can’t ever go back to eating when you’re not hungry and expect anything to change in your eating, weight, and health. Sure this can happen on occasion but what I’m talking about is: how you eat habitually.

If you want to lose weight, as adverse as you may be to weighing and measuring food and counting calories, most people need to do just that. You need to know definitively how much you’re eating. There are exceptions. Some people I know, particularly men, can just decide to cut out dessert and go to the gym more and weight falls off them like water off a ducks back. But for most people, particularly women, who generally have a harder time losing weight than men, this isn’t true.

Sure it would be nice to think that we could take off the weight and eat whatever we wanted to. But this is a pipe dream. It’s the same kind of magical thinking that keeps people running after the next magic pill or miracle diet the promises to take the weight off fast and keep it off for good. How many times have we fallen for that one?

I’m here to tell you the truth you’ve been running from. Oh wouldn’t it be nice to be able to eat everything you love and just be moderate about it? But the truth is: this just doesn’t work. Yes, there might be a miniscule segment of the population for which this is true, but for the vast majority of us, we have to pay attention to food choices and quantities as long as there is breath in our bodies.

The food industry isn’t fighting fair. They’re designing foods that are irresistible to humans. I call them Pleasure Foods. They have these three characteristics:

  1. They were designed for taste.
  2. They contain little or no nutritional value.
  3. We can’t stop eating them.

We get sucked in by enticing Pleasure Food ads that bombard our senses daily, we eat the stuff, get hooked on it, and then, when we discover that we can’t stop eating it, we beat ourselves up for having no will power. It’s time to stop deluding ourselves and tell the truth: as much as we would like to, we can’t moderate these foods. If we could have moderated them, we would have, right? It’s time to stop engaging in the kind of flawed thinking that keeps ups on the dieting, gaining, dieting treadmill. The costs to our self-esteem and our health are huge! Here is the only question you need to ask yourself: are you ready to end this cycle of suffering and live free? If so, ask for help and set the intention to accept the fact that what you eat and how you portion your food has to change.